20 Feb Self-Love
Happy February! This month’s theme is love – specifically, how to love yourself first. So
what does it mean to truly love yourself? Truly loving yourself means that you give yourself
permission to work on yourself, for yourself. This includes allowing yourself to be imperfect
because frankly, perfect just doesn’t exist. Even the people we deem to be perfect just aren’t.
Everyone has their downfalls, and we’re all mean to ourselves sometimes.
But why are we mean to ourselves? Could being nice to ourselves be egotistical? The
answer is NO! It is okay to put yourself first sometimes. In fact, it's important to prioritize your
needs. So, the next time you have an appointment with yourself? Don’t break it. You may feel
selfish or guilty, but it is essential that you put yourself first sometimes, because that is a huge
part of loving yourself.
Recently, I found out that guilt is not its own emotion – it is an emotion of anger. Many
times people often take the guilt they feel and transfer it to anger for someone or something else.
What people don’t often know is that anger is almost never a primary emotion. It is often
underlied by other emotions, such as devalued, powerless, and you guessed it, guilt. For
example, if you’re feeling guilty about not spending time with your kids, it’s easy to feel angry at
them for not giving you enough time to spend with them.
When my niece’s graduation party came around, I felt guilty for not attending. However,
after meditating on what I was feeling and why I was feeling that way, I realized I wasn’t going
to feel guilty about not being able to attend. Sometimes what works for one just doesn’t work for
the other party in the situation. So what does this mean?
It means that you should figure out what truly works for you, what you enjoy. Brainstorm
some steps that you can take to help jump-start this personal process. Write down what you like
to do. Schedule a set amount of time each month to do it. Put money aside for this activity.
Create a “Me” budget for yourself. And remember, you need to take care of yourself before you
can really take care of anyone else! Don’t be afraid to put yourself first sometimes. Not only is it
important – it is completely necessary if you want to live your best life.
By loving yourself first, you are allowing yourself to be the best person you can be.
Believe it or not, your self-esteem correlates with your physical health too! When you are giving
yourself the attention you need, your mood is heightened. You feel optimistic, grateful, and
secure. When you feel low, it often provokes feelings of depression, anxiety and guilt. While it is
important to be mindful of your physical health, your mental health matters just as much! So
remember to try not to be so hard on yourself.
For more information on how to implement self-care into your routine, contact us today!